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SHIFTING YOUR FOCUS TO GRATEFULNESS

SHIFTING YOUR FOCUS TO GRATEFULNESS

Author Joanne Singleton Explains, in Her Own Words, How to Live In Gratitude, Even in Challenging Times


When a crisis occurs, we have various attitude choices on how we can react to the situation. The keywords for me are attitude and reaction. Some events occur that are not within our control, yet affect us momentously. The multi-faceted spectrum of different emotions come into play; many as we have experienced; it is the inevitable part of life. Negative emotions can create stress, anger, guilt, and heaviness in one's life, where positive feelings can bring faith, inspiration, happiness, and a clearer path for greater opportunities to come our way. Love softens, where fear hardens and creates isolation. To live life in gratitude, we need to shift our attitude towards gratefulness, even in the most challenging times. Consciously making a habitual choice to find and express appreciation in one's life, no matter how big or small, creates much bluer skies ahead. Jogging our memory to recall how wonderful we feel when things go well and searching for that piece of goodness in all situations will help re-create that once loved feeling and guide us along the highway of happiness. There will always be peaks and valleys in life, but reminding ourselves that "this too shall pass" helps lighten the air we breathe.


A lesson is most often revealed in difficult times, making us stronger and ultimately more appreciative of the present moment. I always ask myself, "What am I supposed to learn from this?" Even when I initially think "absolutely nothing!" something always pops up when I settle down to having an open mind and then doing my best to approach the situation with love. It can be hard, but I continuously try to be objective. I stand back and look at the problem rather than dance in the chaos. When I'm thinking a million things, I know I've been dancing way too long. Being objective and observing from the outside helps create a clearer head for me to think things through and help shift my being to an attitude of appreciation and understanding. It is said that "misery loves company" and I have certainly had my share of sharing or complaining too much. Passengers love to jump on that bus. Being thankful leaves only room for grateful passengers and, ultimately, a smoother ride for all.